If you want more love in your life, be more loving. If you want the people around you to be kinder and more compassionate, show them kindness and compassion. If you want more respect, respect others and respect yourself. A lot of the time, our natural instincts veer towards more of a "monkey see, monkey do" attitude. If someone is rude to you, you're going to want to be even ruder back to them. If a friend fails to show up for you, you suddenly lose all desire to be a good friend to them. But that's the wrong line to take. Kindness begets kindness, courage begets courage, love begets love. So be brave. Say "I love you" first. Help the mother with her stroller up the subway stairs. Forgive and (really) forget. Let it go. Everything starts with your thoughts and actions. As Gandhi so famously said "Be the change you want to see."